I really like him..now what?

So you started seeing someone who you think is the one.  All the stars have aligned and you can see yourself starting a life with this person.  This can cause a various range of feelings including excitement, joy, and pure happiness. It can also leave you feeling scared and anxious.  So what do you ask before making the big leap? Here are a few things to consider when you start thinking about the future.


If you start seeing someone and you feel there could potentially be a future, it’s important to start asking questions sooner than later. First, it’s important to know what you are looking for in your ideal partner and what values are most important to you.  Sometimes we can confuse something that is “fun” with what is right for us.  Asking the right questions in the beginning of the relationship can help navigate to determine if this is what you’re looking for.

 In the “ getting to know you” stage, it is important to explore the individual and get an idea of who they are as a person.  You will constantly be learning new things about your potential significant other and it can be really exciting yet overwhelming at the same time. Asking questions about hobbies and life goals can give you a good idea of a person’s interests and what they value to see if they match up with yours for the long run.

 First date activities should consist of fun things that you both enjoy doing. Sometimes something as simple as a picnic in the park or a stroll in your neighborhood with a cup of coffee and good conversation can go a long way.

 The first few dates will navigate your road map for your potentially future relationship. Paying attention to any red flags in the beginning is important as they may likely come up again later on in the relationship.  If there is something that you question, make sure to ask further and allow the person to explain themselves in their own terms.

 Dating is a fun, unique experience.  Every experience is different.  Knowing when and what questions to ask can go a long way and can make sure you wind up with the right person for you.